This post is tangentially related to the post I made earlier below in regard to the dream I had. I thought it might be worth sharing.
Me: Today when I was going to sleep before the dream, I feel bad that I stayed up a little late playing a video game. I felt bad a some point, because I was thinking I should just quit, but at the same time, I wanted to contribute as a team member to beat the game, instead of just leaving. When I went to bed, I had a small headache, and felt kind of bad that I continued to play instead of taking a break. I've read and watched a lot of spiritual material online, that some would consider to be fringe. I think you accurately described some of it as New Age spiritual mythology. Bashar a described that we are shifting realities from moment to moment literally billions of times a second, and that gives us the feeling of "time." He also tells us to follow our highest excitement from moment to moment to the best of our ability. I guess my question is, should I feel "bad" about choosing to play video games if it puts me in a lower frequency state? Sometimes I feel guilty about staying on the computer too long instead of taking breaks. (However, at the same time, I really enjoy playing video games and reading / watching content on the Internet). Can you please clarify this for me?
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This is a very healthy, very important question, and I’m glad you asked it this way. What you’re describing is not a spiritual failure — it’s a conflict between enjoyment and self-judgment, amplified by certain spiritual frameworks.
Let’s untangle this gently and clearly.
First: No — you should not feel “bad” in a moral or spiritual sense
Playing a video game is not a lower-frequency action by itself.
Reading, watching videos, gaming, relaxing — none of these are spiritually “wrong.”
What does affect your state is not the activity, but:
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how regulated your body is while doing it
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whether you’re overriding your own signals
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the story you tell yourself afterward
Your headache and discomfort weren’t punishment or proof of “low frequency.”
They were simply fatigue and tension — very ordinary signals.
Where the Guilt Is Actually Coming From
This part is crucial.
Your guilt didn’t come from playing the game.
It came from splitting yourself in two:
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Part of you wanted rest and relief
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Part of you wanted connection, contribution, and completion (team play)
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A third part judged both using spiritual language
That third part is the problem — not the game.
How Spiritual Teachings Can Accidentally Create Shame
Teachings like Bashar’s can be helpful, but they’re often misunderstood.
When people hear:
“Follow your highest excitement”
“You are shifting realities moment to moment”
It can subtly turn into:
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“If I feel bad, I chose wrong”
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“If I’m tired, I lowered my vibration”
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“If I’m uncomfortable, I failed spiritually”
That is not what those teachings were meant to do, but it’s a common side effect.
Let’s Reframe “Highest Excitement” in a Grounded Way
“Highest excitement” does not mean:
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endless stimulation
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pushing past your body
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always choosing pleasure
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never feeling tired or conflicted
In a healthy interpretation, it means:
What feels most aligned and sustainable right now, given your energy?
Sometimes the highest excitement is:
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finishing a game with friends
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resting
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stopping mid-session
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doing something mildly boring but regulating
Alignment is contextual, not absolute.
The Key Question You Should Ask (Instead of “Was this low frequency?”)
Ask this instead:
“Did I listen to my body and adjust with kindness?”
That’s the real spiritual metric.
You noticed:
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fatigue
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a headache
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some inner conflict
That’s not failure — that’s awareness.
Why the Dream Connects (Subtly, Not Mystically)
Your dream showed two states:
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one constricted, anxious, heavy
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one expanded, calm, clear
The switch wasn’t about changing the world.
It was about releasing pressure and judgment.
Your guilt about gaming is the same pattern:
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the activity wasn’t harmful
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the self-criticism created contraction
A Healthier Way to Relate to Gaming (and the Internet)
Here’s a simple, non-spiritualized approach:
During the activity:
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Check in with your body every so often
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Adjust posture, breathe, hydrate
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Take breaks when you can, not when you “should”
After the activity:
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No retroactive judgment
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No vibrational scorekeeping
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Just note: “How do I feel now?”
That’s it.
Important Truth: Enjoyment Is Not the Enemy of Growth
One of the biggest traps in modern spirituality is:
“If I’m enjoying something ordinary, I’m not evolving.”
That’s false.
Humans grow through:
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play
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connection
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relaxation
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pleasure
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meaning
Video games can offer:
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teamwork
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flow
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creativity
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challenge
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social bonding
None of that is spiritually inferior.
The Real Red Flag to Watch For (And You’re Not There)
The only time to intervene is when:
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you consistently override sleep, health, or obligations
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you feel numb rather than engaged
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gaming is used to avoid emotions long-term
What you described is normal self-regulation, not avoidance.
A Simple Permission Statement (Use It If You Want)
“I’m allowed to enjoy things without turning them into spiritual tests.”
That alone will raise your sense of well-being more than any frequency model.
Final, Grounded Takeaway
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You didn’t “lower your vibration”
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You didn’t fail a lesson
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You didn’t choose the wrong timeline
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You played a game, got tired, noticed it, and reflected
That’s healthy consciousness, not sleepwalking.
If you’d like, next we can:
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talk about how to enjoy spirituality without constant self-monitoring
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distinguish intuition from guilt
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or unpack how “frequency” language affects the nervous system
You’re doing better than you think — especially because you’re questioning this instead of blindly believing it.
